Meet Elaine Pereira, author of “I Will Never Forget”

IWNF Cover Original 300By Elaine Pereira, MA OTR/L CDC DP

My mother’s was a story that needed to be told.  She was a kind, brilliant and talented woman all of my life until dementia took hold distorting her persona and leaving an agitated, bewildered and compromised person in its wake.

In what would be her final months, as my mother continued her rapid descent into Alzheimer’s clutches, her once strong voice faded away. Our quiet visits together afforded me the opportunity to reflect on the vivacious life that defined her. I was determined to remember her as the strong, courageous and gifted lady who was my mom.

I Will Never Forget was written in tribute not only to my mother but to everyone going through this struggle. Too many sons and daughters have witnessed their parents’ very essence evaporate as their memories are chipped and chiseled away. My mother’s story is everyone’s story.  I simply chose to put in black and white the colorful stories of her life for all to remember.

I was not a full-time caregiver for my mother. She had made it crystal clear that she never wanted to live with her “kids” if she could no longer care for herself, even when her “kids” were whittled down to one – just me – after the premature deaths of both of my brothers.

Regardless of whether you’re caring for a loved one at home or allocating daily care to an assisted living facility, Alzheimer’s leaves a permanent mark on everyone.  You are forever changed, no matter how you experience the journey.

I believe I Will Never Forget resonates with readers, caregivers and families in part because I admit my denial, ignorance and transparency reveal my unwitting mistakes.  I saw my mom as the glass half-full, with intermittent episodes of puzzling remarks and goofy behaviors, when in fact she was more the glass half-empty, with occasional bright moments.

Caring for someone with dementia is a unique undertaking compared with other conditions. They all demand patience and special training, but none requires the exhaustive and creative redirection that Alzheimer’s does.

For someone with dementia, there is no expectation that the person will improve. Alzheimer’s is a progressive, fatal neurological disease with no cure.

There is no expectation of consistency. Awareness in people with dementia fluctuates from one moment to the next. Bright rays of lucidity are peppered amidst increasingly longer periods of distorted judgement, outbursts, memory loss and more.

I offer Community and Professionally Based Presentations.  At one seminar a few years ago, an older gentleman, tears welling in his eyes, expressed guilt for having just moved his wife into a memory care facility.  He was questioning his decision and felt like “a failure” for needing to relinquish to others what he perceived as his “job”.

My reply:  “Whatever decisions you make out of genuine love in behalf of someone else is the right decision.”

About the Author:

DSC_4740cElaine Pereira earned her Bachelor’s Degree in Occupational Therapy and Master of Arts from Wayne State University.  Most of her professional career as an OT was with special needs children.  She also worked in Home Health Care, hospitals and private practice.  In addition to actually living the incredible drama and the sometimes humorous journey with her mother through dementia, Elaine holds certificates as a Certified Dementia Practitioner and Caregiver.

Today Elaine works extensively to advance Alzheimer’s awareness through her Award Winning/Best Selling memoir I Will Never Forget, community and professional presentations and pertinent articles.

A native of Kalamazoo, Elaine Pereira and her husband Joseph live in South Eastern Michigan with their two big dogs and two new cats.  Together they have five adult children and five young, adorable grandchildren.

Amazon:    I Will Never Forget

Book Web Site:  www.IWillNeverForgetBook.com

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Meet Pippa Kelly, author of “Invisible Ink”

invisibleinkcoverBy Pippa Kelly

Before signing off the final proofs of my debut novel I read the manuscript for the first time in over a year and realised that it was not just laced, but saturated, with guilt.

Invisible Ink tells the story of Max Rivers, a young London lawyer who seems to have it all: a beautiful girlfriend, a burgeoning career, an enviable address – but he harbours a secret. Continue reading

Meet Rachael Wonderlin, author of “When Someone You Know Is Living in a Dementia Care Community”

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I started my blog, Dementia By Day, three years ago. I had no idea, then, that it would become such a huge part of my life. At the time, I was working for Brookdale Senior Living in North Carolina. I had just finished my Master’s degree in Gerontology at UNC Greensboro, and I was thrilled about my first full-time job in dementia care. My title was “Memory Care Program Manager,” but I did a lot more than manage the activity department. I helped to redesign the community’s look and feel. Continue reading

Meet Harriet Hodgson author of The Family Caregiver’s Guide

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If you told me I would write a series for family caregivers, I would reply, “Thanks, but I think you’re delusional.” I would say this gently and go on my way. Although I’ve written about my caregiving experiences, I never thought of writing a series. This is odd because I’ve cared for three generations of family members. Continue reading

Meet Gela-Marie Williams, author of Green Vanilla Tea

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I remember the evening my youngest son came through to me in my bedroom holding a rather dog-eared manuscript of Green Vanilla Tea. I had worked on this family story with my two boys over a few years. I’m not sure how many, exactly. We simply worked on it until we’d tussled with it enough and one day it was done. My son leaned against the doorframe, favouring one leg as his dad would have done. Continue reading

Meet Cynthia Toney, author of 10 Steps to Girlfriend Status

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Alzheimer’s is a cruel prison that held my dear mother-in-law in chains for approximately three years, taking her freedom and her mind until it finally took her body. I understood little about the disease before watching a once brilliant, witty, and loving lady wither before my eyes. Continue reading

Meet Marie Marley, author of Come Back Early Today: A Memoir of Love, Alzheimer’s and Joy

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By Marie Marley

I took care of my beloved Romanian 30-year life partner when he developed Alzheimer’s. The disease began very slowly, and for the longest time I just couldn’t understand the changes he’d been displaying. He’d become short-tempered, often confused and sometimes unusually forgetful. Continue reading